I just read a friend's blog. She is having problems with her ex-husband. It sounded just like my life. Without getting into details, I just want to say to the divorced Dads out there. Your ex-wife is still the mother of your children. Treat her with the respect you would want someone to show your mother. Don't do this for her sake. Do it for your kids. They need to love their mother and you need them to. They can't grow up healthy hearing horrible things you say, seeing horrible things you do to their mother! Divorce is bad enough without character assassination.
And to the divorced mothers, I say the same thing. Remember, that's their father you are talking about. I know how hard it is. Think about what you'd want someone to say about your grown kids. You wouldn't want your grandkids to hear vitriol about their Dad, even if it was true.
As for your pain and frustration.... I don't know. Maybe you just need to remember: Single does not mean alone. You have people who love you and friends you can call who will understand.
I have often thought of starting an anti-divorce blog.
ReplyDeleteFor me, it has never been a good answer. But we'll see if I ever change my mind.